In his letter to the church in Rome, the apostle Paul tells us how to treat our enemies. In the twelfth chapter he writes:
17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
This is a pretty easy instruction, we are not to repay the bad things that one may do to us but rather we are to “do the right thing.” On our parts, we are not to look for any strife.
19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.”
Not only are we to not repay an evil deed with another, we are to avoid any conflict but also we must not seek to avenge ourselves when we are afflicted by others. What then should we do?
20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”
We are to be pious and benevolent, meek and mild. Let God handle the matter because they are lost and they have a God sized hole in their hearts and they need Jesus, you just gotta pray for them… NO! We are told to be nice to our enemies not because we are floor mats for the unbeliever to walk all over us because we are to turn the other cheek but because in being nice to our enemies we will increase their punishment when God brings His wrath upon them! The next time you offer your enemy food or water, you are heaping burning coals on their head.